Recovery in the Lifestyle : RitL is a fellowship of BDSM lifestyle people and guests who are in recovery or would like to be. It is based on the 12 steps of recovery and recognizes that anonymity is most important for us all.

How to list a Recovery in the Lifestyle meeting

Great! You're ready to host a meeting! What we would like for the website is listed here on our website - (link).

  1. Location: Please be as specific as you are comfortable. If there is anything unusual about the location (parking, back room instead of front, stairs, etc.) If it is a private residence, we suggest having a person serve as the point of contact to vet attendees.
  2. Time & Date - Where & when of the meeting. And if it is regularly, ie. 3rd Tues of the month, every Wed, etc.
  3. Additional Items: If there is a regular format, if the meeting location is a business, if there is a person who can be the point of contact. We suggest using a "anonymous e-mail address" (something without your real name in it) preferred.

It is also suggested that you post into our FetLife group and any other groups that you might find helpful. Usually general news in the lifestyle groups in your area, as well as possibly other 12-step oriented groups on FetLife. Lastly, some areas have setup their own specific FetLife group(s) and/or create "events" for people to RSVP to for the meeting to help spread awareness. If you need help with that, just let us know.

The official RitL group on Fetlife is:


Lastly, if you would like postcard/flyers to distribute in the area at lifestyle and/or recovery events & businesses, please contact us so we can send you a stack for distribution to assist with outreach efforts.


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