Recovery in the Lifestyle : RitL is a fellowship of BDSM lifestyle people and guests who are in recovery or would like to be. It is based on the 12 steps of recovery and recognizes that anonymity is most important for us all.

News & Events within Recovery in the Lifestyle

RitL Website Updates

The 12 Steps & Traditions update from last January was not correctly applied to all parts of the website. The 12 Steps & Traditions pages, download files and the website's steps/traditions header artwork. Contact Us if you find any discrepancies on this website.

RitL Meetings at conferences & events

Contact Us if you would like to host an RitL meeting at an event.

RitL Group Updates

Denver, CO - A Recovery in The Lifestyle group "Any-A" meets every Tues from 6:30 - 7:30pm at the "The Center" - website. The LGBT Center is closed on major holidays. Parking meters on Colfax are free after 6pm. For more information contact Lynda N. at

Middlesex County, CT - Unfortunately the location where this meeting has been held closed suddenly. Please email them for more info.

New York City, NY - A meeting of RITL is now available weekly in Manhattan. It is held on Wednesdays, and they ask people to try to arrive by 6:15 The meeting starts at 6:30 pm, and is hosted at Purple Passion, 211 West 20th Street, New York NY, in the basement. For more information, please e-mail them, or visit their FetLife Group

Conf Call, Wed @ 8PM EST - New Dial-in Number: 515-604-9000 | Access Code: 754538

 Philadelphia, PA - The long-running "Ties That Bind Us" kink meeting in Philadelphia is an RitL group. They meet every Sunday, 2:30-3:30 p.m. at the Passional Boutique & Sexploratorium.

Long Island, NY - First Thurs of each month, from 7:30 9:00 PM @ Rancor Studios, 1014 New York Ave Huntington Station, NY 11746

Ft. Lauderdale, FL - The oldest RitL group usually meets monthly on the 3rd Tuesday of the month at a private residence. Please e-mail Aarkey for more information.

Hartford, CT - RitL group meets most Thursdays from 7 - 8:30 pm at the "Society in Hartford" - website. For more information e-mail

Minneapolis & St. Paul, MN - RitL meet on the second Thursday from 7:30 - 8:30 pm at Clare House, 929 Central Ave NE, Minneapolis MN 55413. Fellowship follows after the meeting. For more information, please e-mail: or call 612-236-9515

Lehigh Valley, PA - Every Sunday, a meeting is held near in Lehigh Valley, PA (near Allentown.) They meet at 66 W. Water Street, Hellertown, PA 18055. Doors open at 4:45 and the meeting is from 5:00 6:00PM. For more information, please Contact: Lady Trinidad.

Nashville, TN - RitL has a monthly meeting on the second Sunday from 4 to 5PM at The Mark. For additional information, please visit their FetLife group or e-mail.

Atlanta, GA - The group still meets on a weekly basis, but no longer has a monthly meeting at a local dungeon.

Springfield, OR - Each Sunday from 7 PM to 8:30 PM. Meeting location: Talisman house, those of you unfamiliar please contact heartlost2love, for directions and info.

Cincinnati, Ohio - This group now meets every Sunday at a private residence. For more info, please contact sunshine-sam by e-mail, or on FetLife



RitL Weekly Conference Calls:

Each week on Wednesdays @ 8PM EST there is an RitL meeting behind held by conference call. There is no cost to access the call other than minutes used on your phone.


New Conference Call info (as of 7/4/16):
*Dial-in Number: 515-604-9000
Access Code: 754538 #
Online Meeting Link:
International Dial-in Numbers available


Skype Calls:
Regular RitL meeting
Monday @ 7:30 PM EST

Send a request to: recoveryinthelifestyle on Skype

NOTE: If you would interested in starting another phone meeting, please contact us.

Mistress Stormy has purchased a few more patches. They are sold $20ea. Shipping is included in the price. Please contact us to place an order, and click here to find out more about the patches!


The 7th Tradition - Where Money and Spirituality Mix

For information about 7th tradition contributions and our operating expenses, please visit this webpage.

Dec, 2015 - Thanks to anon for a $30 contribution!


June, 2015 - Thanks for the $200 donation from Atlanta RitL group, the $120 donation from the Oregon group, and the $40 donation from "anonymous" to RitL to General Services

May, 2015 - Thanks for the $70 donation from basket collection at this year's Frolicon

July, 2014 - Thanks to the Recovery in the Lifestyle Minnesota group for their $100 contribution to RitL General Services

April, 2014
- Thanks to Sir Joel for a $50 contribution on behalf of the Vanguard Leather group of Ft. Lauderdale

Sept, 2013 - Thanks to anon for a $20 contribution

June, 2013 - Thanks to the Michigan group for their $50 contribution to RitL General Services

Possible Meetings of the Future?

Phoenix, AZ: There is interested in starting group in the Phoenix area. Please contact slave Daddy Johnnie for more info.

Indianapolis, IN: Essentia has contacted us, and is interested in starting group there. Please email her for more information.

Saratoga Springs, NY: Kinkerbell has contacted us, and is interested in starting group there. Please contact kinkerbell.

Houston, TX: We have received a contact in Houston who is interested in starting a meeting, please email them for information.

Fredrick, MD: There is interest in starting a group near DC & Baltimore. Please contact Sissy Syndi.

Sydney, Australia: There is interest in starting RitL down under in the Sydney! Please contact Phi to get involved.

Oakland / San Jose, CA: There is a new group in the East Bay. Please contact Raven to get involved.

Boston, MA: There are a few people talking about having a meeting in the Boston area. Contact for more information.

New York City: Some people have contacted us about starting an RiTL group in New York City. If you would like to get involved or want more information, please e-mail them.

Do you want to be listed here as someone seeking to start a group in your area? Just send your info to and we'll get you listed here online!

RitL General Services News:

◦ An Update to our Steps & Traditions: A discussion that formally began on our General Services Conference Call in June of 2015 and continued in two more discussions in October & January 2016 has lead to some wording changes in our steps and traditions. We have replaced the word "God" with "Higher Power" and we have replaced the use of "Him/He" to "It or Itself." You can download the revised Steps & Traditions in our document center.

◦ RitL General Services Conference Call: Got business? We are creating a steering committee to handle and help our fellowship evolve. If you any topics or questions please don't hesitate to send us an e-mail so that we can be of service.


RitL General Service Positions

Treasurer Mags has volunteered to step in as group Treasurer, but we are looking for someone to take the role permanently. Mistress Stormy has dutifully served as the treasurer for RitL since its inception and we are grateful for her longstanding service to the fellowship. If you think you can be of service this way, please send us an e-mail.


Outreach Chair During our latest General Services RitL conference call, we voted to create an "Outreach Chairperson" position, RockerZee has graciously stepped up to be of service. If you know of a lifestyle event that might be willing to host an RitL meeting, or print and distribute some of our flyers, please contact Zee at: For more information, please visit our outreach page.

RitL meetings not listed?
If you know of an RitL meeting that is not listed here on our website, please contact us so we can add it to the list. Thanks!


RitL Radio Interviews
◦ Interview with Mistress Stormy, slave Johanna & Aarkey 10/9/12 on Recovery Radio Raw (link). You can listen to it on their website here. Its approximately 90 minutes long, and is available for your listening pleasure in MP3 format. We will keep you posted if there are any further interviews planned.

◦ Interview with Aarkey 9/26/12 on Recovery Radio Raw (link). You can listen to it on their website here. Its approximately 54 minutes long, and is available for your listening pleasure in MP3 format.

Recovery in the Lifestyle Outreach:
We now have downloadable and printable flyers as well as the postcard/flyers to help spread awareness and carry outreach about RitL to other areas. You can download the printable flyers from our document center. If you would like us to send some postcards for distribution at appropriate places within your community, or at conferences & events. Please contact us and we will be happy to send you some cards at our cost. See a sample here.

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